Dealing With Rainy Workdays
Have you heard that most heart attacks occur on Monday mornings?
This will come as a shocker, but one guess is that it’s because people’s stress goes off the charts when getting ready for work after a few days off.
Thankfully, I was spared a heart attack because of work, but I did suffer broken-heartedness about it for decades, which was long enough for me to finally find the courage to try something new.
Entering new territory, however, meant losing sight of solid ground and facing choppy waters.
“ALL SUNSHINE MAKES A DESERT.”
If you’re experiencing a storm in your work or another area of your life, congratulations!
Rain is the stuff of growth and blooming in beautiful ways.
Rain lets you know that you’re moving away from the sunny skies of what you truly want, whether you know what that is or want to admit it to yourself.
You can use rainy days to ask why bad things are happening to you, or ask questions with productive answers:
“What is the blessing in this?”
“How can I feel better now?”
“What do I truly want?”
“How can this experience help get me closer to what I want?”
I learned to ask productive questions the hard way—after years of suffering in ill-fitting work environments. If you’re suffering at work right now, take heart:
Your experiences, no matter a waste of time you might deem them, can give you just what you need to enter great-feeling territory.
But you must keep a good attitude about it.
Sunnier days are possible and can be simpler to create than you might think. Below are five simple (though not always easy) things I did, and continue to do, to keep moving in a good direction.
I USED MY IMAGINATION:
Years ago, I did an exercise imagining my perfect work day, and it’s amazing how I’m actively working on bringing that vision to life now. You can give this a try by sitting quietly and asking yourself over and over what you’d love to do. See what comes to mind. Daydream as if you have all the money, time, and help you need to do what you desire. And remember: Your job is to determine WHAT you want to do, not HOW.
I PUT WHAT I COULD SEE ON PAPER:
Ideas put on paper take on lives of their own. Have you ever found a wish list you’d forgotten only to discover your wishes had come true? I’m not here to tell you how that happens, only that it does. So start writing down your vision right now. And keep tweaking it and tweaking it until you see something that feels so great that you can’t NOT try to bring it to life. At that point, commit to taking at least one small step a day toward your dream.
I STARTED TO SPEAK AFFIRMATIVELY:
Where our focus goes, so do we. Sadly, we tend to focus on what we don’t want, and keep that vision alive through our speech. If you say, “I don’t want a dead-end job,” “dead-end job” is your focus. By speaking affirmatively, I got a better sense of what I did want, which in turn helped me to imagine better things. This can happen for you too.
I FOLLOWED MY INSTINCTS:
We’re hard-wired to feel good or, at the very least, feel better. But we tend to override our hunches and do what makes logical sense. I finally learned not to do this. I finally learned that trying to feel better by trying harder only produces more of the same—it’s better to slow down to feel and follow the guidance our bodies give us.
I LET STUFF GO:
The lesser our loads, the easier we can reach our destinations. Just as the mind is the starting place of creation, it’s also the place to release baggage that keeps us stuck. We all believe things that work against us getting what we truly want. The good news is that a belief is simply a thought we think repeatedly. So if your beliefs don’t mesh with your desires, let them go and start thinking something better. I also let go of physical stuff that was weighing me down.